Saturday, November 9, 2013

John Wayne, Lucille Ball, Steve Byers, & Me

First, let me start by saying that if you haven't seen John Wayne in "Three Godfathers" or in the episode of "I Love Lucy" that he appeared in, this blog contains SPOILERS. 

You can click here for a free online link to the "I Love Lucy" episode guest starring John Wayne. 

I digress. What does all of this have to do with actor Steve Byers (Smallville, Immortals, Catch a Christmas Star,) much less me?  Simple, in one of those college prep tests with the analogies, it could read, "John Wayne is to Lucille Ball as Steve Byers is to Christina Williams"---at least as far as this one particular episode of "I Love Lucy" goes. Well, I'm not quite that bad...I don't think :)

You see, even though Lucy doesn't want to adopt John Wayne, like I want to adopt Steve Byers, no matter how crazy, silly, or ridiculous Lucy is, John Wayne is always very gracious, just like Steve Byers has been to me.  No, I haven't met, him, and I sincerely doubt I ever will, I mean it's 16 hours to Toronto from here and farther to California, so it's not like I'll round a corner one day and find him walking down the street opposite me in the heart of the USA.  It could happen, but I think I probably have a better chance of being hit by lightning.

Anyway, I think you'd be hard pressed to find a star as gracious, humble, and funny as Steve.  And while I'm not a big fan of Westerns myself, I know Steve is quite the John Wayne fan.  I'd love to see him star in a remake of my favorite  John Wayne movie, "Three Godfathers."  Steve could, of course, play any sort of role, but I love the idea of him walking across a desert, while a fugitive from justice, to help this orphaned baby.  I'm pretty sure he'd do the same thing in real life, though I don't know under what circumstances he'd be a fugitive from justice.

Both in his tolerance of at least one crazy fan, and his generosity, Steve Byers reminds me of John Wayne in the previously mentioned shows, and if you want to know why I relate to Lucy, well, just keep reading my blog.  It'll become evident before too long :)

Thursday, November 7, 2013

You Don't Ask You Don't Get

You don't ask, you don't get.  I try not to be pushy.  In fact, I make every point not to box people into things, push them, or make them feel in any way obligated to me.  That would be manipulative, undesirable, and just plain wrong.

On the other hand, I've also found, through the years, that people are NOT telepathic, and sometimes, in fact, oftentimes, the best thing to do is to politely, kindly, ask for what you wish to happen, while giving the other person an "out." 

How do I know this?  From many, many years of being so very painfully shy when I was much younger an never speaking up for myself.  Yep, hard as it may be to believe, I was incredibly timid until the time I entered college, and then, for some strange reason, I metamorphosized.  It was around that time, and even years later in life, that I found that often I was sure some other person would intuitively understand what I thought would be awesome, desirable, or cool, but more often than not, they had no idea, and I missed out on many cool things. 

So, nowadays, I do my best to "take the bull by the horns" so to speak and make my wishes known.  Yes, this leads to more rejection, but also to more cool results, and the good, By Far, outweighs the bad, so it's a philosophy that I do my very best to live by.